On starting to take my personal life offline

I am supportive of people sharing things, both good and bad, on social media. Some people think sharing only positive things is best, but I think sharing bad things has benefits. When you share bad things you allow people to express empathy which can be good for them and you. Sharing negative experiences can also help people feel that they are not the only ones feeling that way. In either case, a small dose of negativity can lead to a larger response of positivity.

Lately, however, I have had so many bad things, big and small, happen to me that I no longer feel it is a net benefit to share them. I even wrote them down tonight and thought: yeah that is a lot of bad things at once. I think that sharing them all the time will just have a negative effect on other people. It will bring them down more than help them. It will also affect me as well, as people move away from me for various reasons, either because they don’t know how to respond or they don’t want to deal with it.(something I have experienced this year.)

As a result, I started logging much of the difficulties I have been having in Day One, which is a great app. Writing things there helps me vent and review it later without having it social. As I found, after I vented, I was able to gain some perspective and think better about the situation, which helped. Sharing things can be useful, but in some cases not sharing can be more beneficial.

If you share a lot of your life, I recommend this approach for people in a similar situation. I recommend the Day One app too.  It is great. 

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2 responses to “On starting to take my personal life offline

  1. Aww, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a lot of not good things going on 😦
    That is true though, something I noticed myself when I used to sharing darker things and even how I respond to other people – you don’t know how to respond, so you don’t. Or you feel like your response would be insignificant or not helpful or might make it worse even.

    I hadn’t heard of the day one app. For me, I just had an anon blog that I vented in, that noone accept my bff knew about.

    • I like DayOne, though I understand the value of other approaches.

      Thanks for sharing your own experiences, too. It is good to hear about how other people have dealt with such things.

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