FOMO vs JOB-C (Joy of Being Connected)

FOMO: the Fear of Missing Out, is the topic at Caterina Fake’s blog,

It’s a thoughtful post, and as I recall, it is a fear that I had when I was younger. However, as I get older (and I believe this is true generally), I think the predominant fear one has becomes the fear of being left out. What’s great about social media, wireless connectivity, mobile devices, and other technology developments is that it gets easier to be connected and stay connected. I was sitting on my couch one Saturday night and I was a) responding to email from the Nova Scotia b) texting my daughter to see what she was doing in Toronto c) listening to music being posted on from friends in the U.S. d) looking at photos being posted on Facebook and from around the world e) responding to people on twitter from everywhere. What struck me was how interconnected I was with the world. Where once I might have felt isolated being by myself, having all this technology allowed me to be connected, and it made me happy to have it. It was the joy of being connected.

Now I think FOMO is a better acronym that JOY-C. And I have no doubt that people experience FOMO. But I am happy to have all my additional connectivity and JOY-C.

4 responses to “FOMO vs JOB-C (Joy of Being Connected)

  1. Great acronym!
    Although I think it is somewhat of a problem and diminishing manners… just last night my friends and I were sitting around the dinner table chatting. As we did so one of our friends in the group who is not as close to everyone just kept on tapping away at her iphone instead of engaging in conversation with us!

    • smartpeopleiknow

      Thanks! Yes, people using a device like that is as rude as someone who would read a book or look out the window while being part of a group. If they don’t want to be there, they should excuse themselves and go do that elsewhere. I use the newspaper/magazine/book rule in such situations: if it would be rude to start reading a book in a social situation, then it is just as rude to use your PDA/phone.

  2. Debbie Adams

    My perspective is a bit different. I now have more online social networks then friends because of moves I’ve made recently. It is not near as rewarding on a night to chat online with someone when what I really want to do is share a meal or a dinner party. I see it as armslength friendship with few demands.

    • smartpeopleiknow

      I think social networks are good in addition to real life socializing. But it would be a shame if real life socializing took a hit as a result of them.