It’s easy to let care for yourself slide in a pandemic. But even in normal times it can be a problem. If you find this to be the case, then I recommend this piece. It can help you understand why you aren’t taking better care of yourself. It then helps you understand what good selfcare looks like.
I’d add a base reason for self care is you can only take care of others if you take care of yourself as well. The airplane mask rule is always in effect.
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If you are using CBT to deal with your mood, consider this app: Moodnotes: a Thought Journal, Mood Diary, CBT App.
It helps you quickly capture your mood, but it also help you deal with distorted thinking that contributes to poor moods or worse.
A very good piece for parents to read. How Parental Love Impacts Flourishing Later in Life | Psychology Today
Parenting is a long term play, though it might not seem some days. And some days the effort you put in doesn’t seem to make a difference. But it does. Read that for those days when you wonder if you are doing anything right as a parent.
Despite what the New York Times and others say: ‘Guilty’ Pleasures? No Such Thing – The New York Times, there is such a thing as guilty pleasures.
Usually guilty pleasures arise out of inconsistency or lack of integrity with what you like versus who you are (or think you are). You want to be one way, but you enjoy doing something the other way. People who say they don’t have guilty pleasures are simply saying that the things they like are consistent with how they perceive themselves. Or they are saying that they have no problem with occasionally being inconsistent. That’s fine, but that isn’t everyone.
Feel free to call your pleasures guilty if you want. Just try not to have any that harm anyone or anything other than your desire to be consistent.
A small, handy guide to dealing with your emotions:
While this article, What You Can Control at The Simple Dollar, is financially oriented, it really contains wisdom you can use in general. While this wisdom is obvious once you read it, most of us lose sight of this from time to time. Go remind of yourself of it by reading the article.
While I recommend reading the whole article, but here are some points I pulled from it:
- You can’t control the actions of others
- You can control how you respond to the actions of others
- You can’t control natural forces
- You can control how you prepare for the possibility of natural forces
- You can’t control big expenses, especially unexpected ones.
- You can control how you prepare for those unexpected expenses
When it comes to things completely outside of your control, it’s not very beneficial to you to exert time, energy, emotion, or focus on those things.
In general, actions based on emotion in response to something you can’t control are awful choices.